I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what it means to be a woman in her late twenties. As I’m getting older, I’m more comfortable with who I am. I think this is because you realise that there is no such thing as ‘perfect’ in any sense of the word – whether it’s how you look, or the personality traits that you have. You reach a point where you don’t hate your imperfections quite as much, and you’re more accepting of them. Kinda like annoying TV shows that fill the time slot before your favourite program starts – you’re never going to love it, but you accept that it’s there.
I’ve also been thinking a lot about who I am, what I’m doing with my life and the things that I stand for. Sounds deep doesn’t it? But really what’s set it off is the whole #girlboss thing. I know it’s a book, and yes I’ve read it (and loved it) but this is more about what being a Girl Boss means to me…what it looks like and why I’m proud to be one, and to know so many.
To me, being a Girl Boss is being a woman who’s driven. She might be an entrepreneur, she might be an employee or she might be unemployed. To me the epitome of being a Girl Boss is being a woman who excels in what she does – even when it takes blood, sweat and tears. You don’t have to be making millions as the next big thing, but rather someone who, regardless of her role or position, invests in what she does, works hard and achieves results. Those results may not mean anything to anyone else, but if you’re working hard and doing a good job, then to me your drive and motivation makes you a Girl Boss too.
It’s also about being innovative. Not just in business, but in every day life. The women I admire the most are the ones who manage to feed a family on the tiny amount of money they have available, and the ones who forgo treats of any description so their kids can have what they need. Being innovative or creative isn’t just for the workplace, it’s for the home – stretching those meals, making ends meet – finding cheap and effective ways to keep the kids happy in the school holidays. It’s about the women who love designer treats but can’t afford the price tag, so they make their own clothes, or they hunt through rail after rail at the charity shops to achieve amazing dupes with a catwalk vibe for a fraction of the price. A Girl Boss hustles for what she wants and if she can’t get it exactly, she finds a way round it.
To me it’s also about being a woman of integrity. Now, I’m not talking about being a saint! You can still have a saucy one-night stand or get drunk and sing your way down the cobbled streets to the taxi rank at the end of a long week. It’s not about living like you’re wearing a halo. It’s about being true to who you are and what you stand for. That age old saying of “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything” has always been a mantra of mine. Sometimes people oppose your views, sometimes people challenge them. You may not be able to explain, to justify or answer these people back, but if you’ve got convictions, standing behind them is the sign of being a Girl Boss in my eyes. If you feel strongly put your stake in the sand: that’s integrity to me.
Being a woman of integrity is also about being classy. Not forceful or bullish, but dignified and sophisticated. Sometimes in life you have to fight for the things you want, sometimes you have to raise your voice – just so it’s heard. But don’t ever let the world make you lose your dignity or your class. Keeping true to your inner Coco Chanel will never let you down…Girl Boss style.
In my opinion being a true Girl Boss is about making the most of the cards you’re dealt in life – even when they’re a truly crappy hand. Lets not kid ourselves, who can really smile through pure heartache or pretend like nothing’s wrong in the midst of tragedy? But those women who carry on – who manage to put one step in front of the other – regardless of what life throws at them…well, they’re the true vision of a Girl Boss in my eyes.
It takes balls to be a woman in this day and age. To have babies, to run a home, to keep fit, to keep healthy, to work hard, to earn money, to blog…it takes balls to do it all! And so often we go too hard on ourselves and on those who are actually doing an amazing job – I’m talking to you: the single mum, the unemployed gal trying to get a job desperately…I’m talking to you all. It takes balls to be rising from the ashes of the previous generation’s opinion that we’re the ‘lesser’ sex. So don’t ever underestimate the awesome job you’re doing, because the fact that you’re doing it (whatever it is) is testament to the fact that you have the balls needed to be a woman in this world.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I aim to be a Girl Boss in everything I do, and I see so many women doing an amazing job at life who are way too hard on themselves. Always thinking that they’re not quite there yet – wherever there actually is. But to all of those women, I say this: you’re already there! The journey is the destination and the fact that you’re on it, moving forward, keeping your head held high, is the sign that your journey is the journey of a Girl Boss.
Here’s to the strong ones. To the ones who don’t feel strong but still carry on somehow. Here’s to the ones who inspire us, motivate us and remind us of our inner Girl Boss when we forget. We are the Girl Boss generation.
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